Throughout our lives as women, we have found ourselves paralyzed by our fears: fear of failure, fear of success, rejection, loss, loneliness, pain, loss of safety, security, and affection, estrangement, separation – the list goes on. We find ourselves willing to endure our pain because we are afraid, our instinct is to protect ourselves from the risks of change.
But we can come to realize that we are not powerless, worthless individuals at the mercy of the judgment of others. Our happiness is not dependent on the actions or perceptions of anyone else. We must accept responsibility for the unhealthy conditions that surround us and restore our personal power.
Giving away our power to the whims of others weakens our spirit. Many times, pain is the beginning of awareness. And that pain may awaken our consciousness.
We are who we are because of what we have been through. We cannot forget the meaning or nature of our journey. We must use the past and what it can teach us without being controlled by it, and take possession of the cruelties in our past to free ourselves of the bondage to these past events.
We can direct our energies and recognize our personal gains. Nothing and no one can take them away from us. We can gain strength from our experiences. We learn through our pain, we accept or reject our burdens, and grow beyond our fears. We can be unafraid in a world where there is much work to do, truth to seek and love to give and enjoy. We are free to be who we want to be.
So what is FAITH? Faith is a strong and steadfast belief in a power greater than ourselves. It is devotion, loyalty, hope, resolution, trust, acceptance, and confidence. Faith is belief without proof, leaping before you are positive you will make it to the other side, making a decision before you have ALL the facts or have solved ALL the problems, committing before you are CERTAIN. We can decide that we have faith in our ability to grow and change.
What is COURAGE? Courage is taking just one baby step, and then we will find that every time we take a risk, we strengthen our willingness to take another. Conscious risk taking can be very empowering which leads to greater self-esteem. Baby steps become leaps. So take a leap! What do we really have to lose? What do we have to gain?
And what is FREEDOM? Freedom is the ability to make a CHOICE! Freedom means we are not subject to the control or domination of another; we are not bound, confined or detained by force from other people’s perceptions
Here are 4 tips for your journey:
- Tap into faith, courage, and the strength of your inner spirit.
- Strive for the state of being nearly fearless.
- Don’t be afraid to be yourself, be authentic.
- Participate in life, don’t just let it happen.
The bottom line is: Risk It!!!
“To laugh is to risk appearing the fool. To weep is to risk appearing sentimental. To reach for another is to risk involvement. To expose your feelings is to risk exposing your true self. To place your ideas, your dreams before a crowd is to risk their loss. To love is to risk not being loved in return. To live is to risk dying. To believe is to risk despair. To try is to risk failure. But risks must be taken, because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing. The person who risks nothing does nothing, has nothing, is nothing. They may avoid suffering and sorrow, but they cannot learn, feel, change, grow, love, live. Chained by their attitudes they are slaves; they have forfeited their freedom. Only a person who risks is free.”
– William A. Ward
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Mal Duane is a Best Selling Author and Personal Life and Recovery Coach who has overcome life challenges using the steps in the Alpha Chick Process. Her personal mission is to help women excel in all areas of their lives from business to personal relationships. Mal has been featured with Fox 25 Boston Morning Show, CBS Radio, Aspire Magazine, Healthy Living and Metrowest Daily News. She has also been a featured guest on over one hundred Blogtalk Radio shows discussing recovery and personal transformation.
Mal’s book, Alpha Chick, Five Steps for Moving from Pain to Power, is a best selling book and is available on Amazon.com.