It is Christmas, a time of year when lights are twinkling, music is playing and people are celebrating all over the world. This Christmas is going to be different for many whose lives have been touched by the tragedy in Connecticut. The twenty six families involved will probably never experience Christmas the same way they once did. All of us will be thinking about these children and their heroic teachers who sacrificed their lives to save their students. I am still tearing up daily from different news clips releasing more of the details.
You ask how does something like this happen? What possessed a young twenty year old man to want to massacre twenty small innocent children in a school. There are no clear answers. Obviously he was very troubled. Sadly, there have been other similar senseless killings this year involving troubled young men. How do we work together to eliminate future disasters? A partial solution is spreading more love and compassion to those we personally interact with. Instead of coming from a place of judgment, what if you offer acceptance and unconditional love. A cooperative spirit supports the growth of us and our loved ones.
Collectively as human beings we have the ability to raise the consciousness of mankind and the connection to core and social values. The internet has brought on a decline in our thinking and our values. We now have more exposure to violence and bad behavior. We are responsible for the exposure our children receive from the various sources they engage with.
This is a time of year for Peace on Earth so why not start to take steps today to monitor what your family is exposed to.
- Stop buying violent video games that show children total lack of regard for human life. If no one buys them they will stop making them.
- Put restrictions on the content they are allowed to watch on TV.
- Monitor what websites they are going to and their Facebook posts.
- If you sense you have a child that is struggling socially to fit in, pay attention.
- Change starts with us and ripples out into the world, not the other way around.
My Christmas wish for you and your family is to live in peace, not in fear. I am praying that you all will be willing to become catalysts for creating a more loving and peaceful world. Remember you grow from your challenges. There is a seed of wisdom in every single one of them and they teach you lessons. Reflect on the past experiences of this year and what they can teach you to make the world a better place for your family.
Mal Duane is a Best Selling Author and Personal Life and Recovery Coach who has overcome life challenges using the steps in the Alpha Chick Process. Her personal mission is to help women excel in all areas of their lives from business to personal relationships. Mal has been featured with Fox 25 Boston Morning Show, Aspire Magazine, Healthy Living and Metrowest Daily News. She has also been a featured guest on over thirty Blogtalk Radio shows discussing recovery and personal transformation.
Mal’s book, Alpha Chick, Five Steps for Moving from Pain to Power, is a best selling book and is available on Amazon.com.