The Divorce Recovery Principles
It doesn’t matter who you are,
No one fully understands divorce unless they’ve been through it.
And if you’re here, I’m betting you’ve been through it…
Or you’re going through it right now!
If you're going through divorce, or already through one, you're not alone.
In fact, you’re in the statistical majority!
That’s right! 51% of first marriages, 67% of second marriages, and 73% of third marriages end in divorce. Scary, right?!
But let’s be honest. When your life turns upside down, you don’t give a damn about statistics. You’re in pain and you want OUT of it!
If you’re ready to stop being a statistic and fully heal from your divorce so you can live a happy and fulfilling rest of your life, read on!
Losing your marriage is painful, confusing, and complicated.
It’s not “just” a breakup…
It’s the loss of the future you imagined.
It’s the death of a dream.
And no matter how messed up that “dream” had become in reality, it still hurts!
Even though your friends and family say well intentioned things like “You just have to let it go,” or “You’ll find someone better;” for you, it’s not so simple.
You know all of that is true, but…
You walk around with a gaping hole in your heart.
Because it doesn’t matter how bad your marriage was.
It doesn’t matter who left who.
Or even if you both WANTED the divorce,Divorce SUCKS!
And “getting over it” takes more than a pep-talk!
Getting over a divorce is a process of HEALING!
And if you don’t allow yourself to go through the healing process, you’ll live the rest of your life among the “walking wounded”...
Afraid to trust
Living in survival mode
Still blaming your ex for your current woes
Wondering how you’ll be able to do it all… alone...
Will my life ever be the same?
And will I ever find love again?
Without support in healing from their divorce (both emotionally and financially), many women go into fight or flight mode to get through the legal process.
That can mean months, or even years, of heightened stress and living in “survival mode”
And when it’s finally over, you feel liked the blood has been sucked out of your body.
It would be so easy to just fall into bed, pull the covers over your head, and not come out for weeks. After all, the world you knew is gone and you don’t have a clue as to what is coming next.
Your first thought is likely “how am I going to do all of this alone?”
And that thought can paralyze you and keep you stuck in your fear.
But YOU are here on this page, in this moment, because you are READY step out of fear and HEAL.
You're ready to step onto a new path - one that leads to inner healing, transformation and long-awaited JOY!
I am here to guide you and show you that there is a new life, in fact a wonderful life, ahead of you, and that you have the power to write a new story for yourself! I am living proof !
I was in my mid-sixties when I discovered an unthinkable betrayal in my own marriage. Yes, I fell to my knees at first. After a few days, I started to tap into my own self-love and respect. I prayed for my inner strength to show me the way. I am now two years out from my divorce and living my life filled with passion and purpose again.
My friend, you CAN heal from this. I know it.
In fact, I’ve helped scores of women just like you to do it.
And that’s why I created the Live Smart, Love Smart Divorce Recovery Program!
Because you deserve to heal from your divorce- financially and emotionally!
And you deserve to THRIVE! You don’t want to end up living as a statistic of divorce, a victim of love gone sour…
You’re ready to rewrite your story! You’re ready to create your own happily ever after!
We will start the journey together right where you are. It’s a process. It takes work, but you are capable, and you are READY.
Here's What You Can Expect:
The process starts with eight weekly calls, supported by worksheets and resources, daily email support and 24/7 text for those moments that paralyze you. I had them too! I just wish I had someone to turn to who really understood what I was feeling.
Module 1 - Financial Recovery
We’ll start with the practical and urgent. You’re living a new financial reality, and it’s time to get a handle on it so you can start feeling empowered to create a NEW LIFE of financial security and abundance (no matter where you’re starting from), so we’ll look at everything from debt to taxes, and create a budget and a timeline to get you where you want to be. You’ll get worksheets and suggested resources.
Module 2 - Confident and Employable YOU!
Whether you’re currently employed and need more income, or you’ve been out of the workforce for years, we’ll assess where you are, and take the steps necessary to land your ideal work scenario.
Module 3 - Happy, Healthy Housing!
You may have gotten the house in the divorce, but we’ll spend this module discerning if it is the right place for you to be, emotionally and financially. You have an opportunity to start over- to get a fresh start! We’ll work together to determine exactly what the best housing scenario for you new life is!
Module 4 - Rediscovering You - Self Care
Once you’ve got the financials and logistics sorted out, it’s time to truly HEAL from your divorce. And this process starts with self-care, something many of us have neglected for far too long. We’ll spend this module diving deep into the YOU you’re ready to become. This means letting go of what no longer serves you, forgiving yourself, and forgiving the past.
Module 5 - Creating the Change You Need
We’ll assess what changes need to occur in your life in order to create the reality you truly want (and deserve!), and go about the process of breaking bad habits and installing new ones!
Module 6 - Creating Connections That Fill Your Cup
Part of caring for yourself is ensuring that you have relationships in your life that nourish you, so in this module we’ll work together to get clear on what you need from friends, and whether you’re ready for dating! And, ready or not, you’ll get sound dating advice for when the moment does arrive.
Module 7 - Trust and Intimacy in Your New Reality
It’s a whole new world out there! Trust and intimacy are important components of your future happiness, and in this module we’ll help you to create them. We’ll dive deep into building trust with a new potential partner, what YOU need to be intimate, and how to feel good about your body and reclaim your sexuality.
Module 8 - Your Whole, Healed Happily Ever-After!
This is where it all comes together! We’ll recognize all of the progress you’ve made so far, and create an action plan for the next 30, 60, 90 days and beyond!
Here’s the truth that too many people don’t understand- You SHOULD feel angry. You SHOULD feel disappointed. The key is to not STAY in that space.
Think about it.
Would you remodel a house if the foundation was falling apart? Of course not! Your foundation must be solid, strong and healed before you can move on and live the life you were meant to live.
Listen- you get ONE life.
Are you going to keep living it as a victim of your divorce?
What if you had a new story? Imagine a day when you wake up SO healed, SO strong, SO happy that the pain of your divorce is a distant memory.
I’ve done it.
And you can too.
Don’t spend one more day of your precious life thinking about a man that didn’t deserve you or a relationship that didn’t fulfill its promise.
There is love to be made.
There is life to be lived!
“When I first met Mal, I was in such emotional pain. She spoke to me and I was immediately touched by her words, her transparency. She is so real, so compassionate. I felt there was no judgment on her part of my situation. She really helped me to start to understand my pain and to feel better. I feel like she is a gift from God. “ Rachel A.
“You've made an incredible difference in my life, Mal. I wouldn't be feeling so great if it wasn't for your help and your belief in me. I'm not sure if my words can ever express the gratitude that I have for your belief in me and your desire for helping me to see my own light, become stronger and more independent. It means more to me than you'll ever know.” Sam
“Mal, there is so much to appreciate about you that I hardly know where to start. In our coaching together, you are witty and wise, supportive and challenging, warm and honest... and so much more. I think what makes you unique is your ability to share your own life experiences with such honest emotion and self-forgiveness. You can reach down into another’s heart, help her see the innate goodness, and find a path out of the chaos. It never feels like judgmental or preachy but instead like talking to a dear friend who believes in you and truly wants the best for you.” Susan